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Fortifying Friendships - A Key to Happiness

Updated: Mar 17, 2023

I have a very serious question for you. Can you name at least one 4am friend? A 4am friend is someone you can call at 4am (or any other ungodly hour of the night) with any bizarre request, and they will do whatever they can to help you out. If you don’t have a 4am friend, it’s time to get one. Why?

Studies have down that having strong social connections is not only critical for our happiness, but it is beneficial for our health. Additional studies suggest that people are 12 times more likely to feel happy on days when they spend between 6 to 7 hours with friends. On top of all that, research also shows that people with those strong social connections are 50% less likely to die early!

I am very fortunate and grateful for my 4am friends. They are mutually beneficial relationships that help us through all stages of life. Unfortunately, life can get busy, and sometimes friendships can get pushed aside when juggling work, family, and other duties. Despite that, we must actively try to not let that happen for long!

Therefore, here are some tips on how to fortify your friendships.

Take Time to Connect

Taking the time to connect means making an effort to listen to their life updates, ask deeper, harder questions, and be understanding even if you don’t agree with all their choices. It means getting to know them on a layer under what they show the average Joe.

Savor the Little Moments

True friendship forming is more than only rushing to the next big experience, like a trip to Mexico or an epic girl’s night out with your ten closest friends. You must take the time to savor little moments. Whether it is getting a cup of coffee, laughing over puppy videos, or attempting an exercise class together, these are the moments that will forge the greatest connection.


Make sure to celebrate your friend’s successes when they happen. Make it all about them rather than sharing your wins in return or being jealous. Focus on them and their accomplishments!

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Inspired by this article in Positive Psychology

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